Frustration....
So, we really are trying NOT to be negative about this adoption, but I got an email from our coordinator yesterday saying that referrals out of Russia are coming really slow. She said that her rep told her that they should hear something in the next 2-3 months, but there are no guarantees.
I just want to cry right now, because ever since we started this process since December 11th last year...we were expecting to have our little Katie Allison home for Christmas. Now, if we do not get a referral until October or later, it could be sometime in 2011 when we actually get to bring her home! Not that the adoption tax credit was the ONLY reason we were hoping to have our adoption completed by the end of the year (though a definite bonus), but this is just another worrisome blow to this whole process.
Last year and earlier this year before the wacko woman did what she did in Tennessee by sending back that six year old child to Moscow alone, I dreamed of having Christmas this year with our little baby girl. Because our agency told us when we signed with them last December that most people are completely finished with their adoptions before 12 months, I had myself all prepared to be spending Christmas with our little one. Her nursery is finished and days like yesterday and today, I can't even bare to go in there. I'm really trying not to feel self-pity and be so emotional and upset because in the grand scheme of things, I guess 2-3 MORE months isn't really THAT long. I guess that's what keeping a journal about this whole process does for me, though. It truly allows me to be honest about my feelings and not hold them in (not that I could possibly even do that anyway).
All of our friends are having their second and third children now...and we haven't even had our first. Maybe as soon as this adoption with Katie is complete, we should start paperwork for another one and maybe we'll consider domestic this next time. Who knows? I just know that when Aaron and I got married and talked about having a family that we wanted at least two children.
Please pray we hear something sooner than 2 or 3 MORE months! For Russia, once you hear something, you usually travel about a month or so later and then you have to leave your child-to-be behind, come back to the U.S., do another set of paperwork (dossier #2) and then submit that to wait for court dates. The court dates usually happen anywhere from 1-3 months after your first trip.
As much as I love babysitting other people's children, Aaron and I really feel in our hearts that it's time for us to have our own family. As a Christian, you're always taught...."in God's perfect timing..." Maybe one day looking back at all this, I'll be able to see it was His perfect timing, but I do not currently feel that way.
We pray everyday for a baby girl we haven't even met and one who doesn't even know her mommy and daddy want to come get her as soon as possible. We pray she's getting love in the orphanage and that God will put a protective barrier around our baby girl. When we filled out our immigration paperwork, we had expected to be traveling at the end of July, but with no referral at the moment, it seems like that won't happen. So, we're doing what the adoption literature suggests and planning things together as a couple. In August, at the end of the month, we've planned a weekend getaway to Nashville, Indiana to a bed and breakfast to celebrate several things:
1. Our 4th wedding anniversary is August 12th
2. My 30th birthday is August 26th
3. Aaron will be halfway through his Master's degree in August. He graduates in June 2011 and I could not be prouder of him! He has virtually scored a perfect score on all his papers, tests and weekly journal posts (online classroom participation). Way to go, honey!!! I love you!!!
Please continue to pray with us for our Katie Allison and specifically that we hear something soon!
I just want to cry right now, because ever since we started this process since December 11th last year...we were expecting to have our little Katie Allison home for Christmas. Now, if we do not get a referral until October or later, it could be sometime in 2011 when we actually get to bring her home! Not that the adoption tax credit was the ONLY reason we were hoping to have our adoption completed by the end of the year (though a definite bonus), but this is just another worrisome blow to this whole process.
Last year and earlier this year before the wacko woman did what she did in Tennessee by sending back that six year old child to Moscow alone, I dreamed of having Christmas this year with our little baby girl. Because our agency told us when we signed with them last December that most people are completely finished with their adoptions before 12 months, I had myself all prepared to be spending Christmas with our little one. Her nursery is finished and days like yesterday and today, I can't even bare to go in there. I'm really trying not to feel self-pity and be so emotional and upset because in the grand scheme of things, I guess 2-3 MORE months isn't really THAT long. I guess that's what keeping a journal about this whole process does for me, though. It truly allows me to be honest about my feelings and not hold them in (not that I could possibly even do that anyway).
All of our friends are having their second and third children now...and we haven't even had our first. Maybe as soon as this adoption with Katie is complete, we should start paperwork for another one and maybe we'll consider domestic this next time. Who knows? I just know that when Aaron and I got married and talked about having a family that we wanted at least two children.
Please pray we hear something sooner than 2 or 3 MORE months! For Russia, once you hear something, you usually travel about a month or so later and then you have to leave your child-to-be behind, come back to the U.S., do another set of paperwork (dossier #2) and then submit that to wait for court dates. The court dates usually happen anywhere from 1-3 months after your first trip.
As much as I love babysitting other people's children, Aaron and I really feel in our hearts that it's time for us to have our own family. As a Christian, you're always taught...."in God's perfect timing..." Maybe one day looking back at all this, I'll be able to see it was His perfect timing, but I do not currently feel that way.
We pray everyday for a baby girl we haven't even met and one who doesn't even know her mommy and daddy want to come get her as soon as possible. We pray she's getting love in the orphanage and that God will put a protective barrier around our baby girl. When we filled out our immigration paperwork, we had expected to be traveling at the end of July, but with no referral at the moment, it seems like that won't happen. So, we're doing what the adoption literature suggests and planning things together as a couple. In August, at the end of the month, we've planned a weekend getaway to Nashville, Indiana to a bed and breakfast to celebrate several things:
1. Our 4th wedding anniversary is August 12th
2. My 30th birthday is August 26th
3. Aaron will be halfway through his Master's degree in August. He graduates in June 2011 and I could not be prouder of him! He has virtually scored a perfect score on all his papers, tests and weekly journal posts (online classroom participation). Way to go, honey!!! I love you!!!
Please continue to pray with us for our Katie Allison and specifically that we hear something soon!
April~
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that your wait for a referral is taking so long. I cannot imagine how hard it is for you and aaron. Hold tight to each other and try to enjoy these last months as a family of two because the process does work and will work for you. You will be a family of three before you know it. I know you had spending this Christmas with your baby in your heart. Who knows when it will happen but when it does it will be when you are not expecting it. Adoption is an emotional up and down roller coaster and not for the faint of heart. You WILL get your baby girl. We are praying for you guys!!!